ʟᴇᴛᴛᴇʀ ONE:
◦ Qᴜɪᴛ ɢᴏꜱꜱɪᴘɪɴɢ
BLACK FOLKS LOVE TO GOSSIP!!??!!!! And for what?!!!!!! CUT THAT SHIT OUT NOW!!!!! Gossiping is fan behavior. Shit is weird. Lol. Only miserable people have time to sit around and gossip. Every time you bring up somebody else’s business think about would you like somebody bringing up your business. WHICH I DOUBT, because with the business y’all have, I know y’all don’t want nobody bringing it up! Everybody has their own struggles and every single one of us has something we are battling with. If you are struggling with something why go and talk about the next person’s struggle????!! Focus on you and your shit, PLEASE!
Every time your auntie calls your mama to talk about cousin Randa and her baby daddy Charles, she IS gossiping.
Every time Sister Sheila get on the phone talking about sister patty sleeping with deacon Jo she IS gossiping. Sister Sheila need to find her something better to do!!!! Lol.
Family members gossip more than anything amongst the black community! I HATE ITTT 🙄 It’s like are you so negative because you don’t love yourself orrrrr are you just THAT jealous?????? Idk. Whatever it is, it’s unacceptable. Family’s not supposed to be against each other. They’re supposed to love and support one another.
BUT the WORST of em’ all is gossiping CHURCH folk because they’re:
𝗛𝗬𝗣𝗢𝗖𝗥𝗜𝗧𝗘S!!!!!
How you go to church every Sunday, claiming you love THE LORD and his people, while spreading rumors and gossiping about them? HOW???That’s why there’s so much drama in black churches now. Quit gossiping!!!
◦ ᴏᴜʀ ᴄʜɪʟᴅʀᴇɴ ɢʀᴏᴡ ᴜᴘ ᴡᴀʏ ᴛᴏᴏ ꜰᴀꜱᴛ
Why is it that our children are exposed to so much at such a young age?
Knowledge/wisdom doesn’t come with just age. You gain it through your personal experiences…. The way you move through life and your experiences determine a good bit of your knowledge… meaning, a child that is exposed to too much will eventually begin maturing faster than their peers. They will gravitate towards older people and involve themselves in things that they are “too young to be doing” age wise.
Black parents are quick to say a child is “TOO DAMN GROWN” but the thing is the parents play a major role in exposing their children to too much, along with giving them too many responsibilities!
For example, we’ve normalized black daughters taking care of the household as if they are the mothers
Understand the difference between:
A child lending a hand is helping out here and there when the parents need a little help. This barely requires any type of responsibility… THIS is what children should be doing.
Not keeping up a household.. a child should not be responsible for maintaining the things inside of YOUR home. It is not your daughter’s responsibility to watch your children all night while you out at the club. It is not your daughter’s responsibility to cook for you, your husband and y’all kids. It is not your daughter’s responsibility to emotionally support you. It is not a child’s responsibility to take care of an adult AT ALLLLLL! Also, children should not be RAISING children!!! That’s way too much responsibility for a child. If YOU lay down and conceive a child, YOU should be the one to take care of that child. If you aren’t in a position to actually let your children BE children, don’t have any! They deserve to enjoy their childhood as a child!
Another example is black men encouraging their adolescent sons to have sex.. along with consenting to them having relations with grown women. IF THAT AINT EXPOSING YOUR CHILD TO TOO MUCH THEN IDK WHAT IS. Is that not a problem? As if that aint pretty much consenting to pedophilia!!!!! Not only that, but you’re teaching your sons to sexualize women at a very young age. I don’t even understand how so many black men can consent to this behavior… especially when these same men don’t want their daughters sexually active AT ALL!!!! Boys are no different from girls.
I understand that most of the men and women who condone sex at an early age are victims of this behavior.. their parents probably consented to them having sex with older people as well. BUT understand that it was wrong THEN and the shit is wrong NOW. Quit normalizing traumatic ass lifestyles!
◦ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜ ᴡʜᴏ ʏᴏᴜ ʟᴀʏ ᴅᴏᴡɴ ᴡɪᴛʜ
I really want black people to understand the depth of love, relations, marriage and soul ties……. How serious all of that shit really is. It’s deeper than just sex, instagram photos and couple vlogs!!!!
Black folks LOVEEEE to go off to the military and get married 😂 You done went off to the military and married an almost complete stranger, just to get a check, without even understanding that this person you’re about to marry could have a lifelong history of mental illnesses and could be seeing damn demons….. now you’re married to a nut and want a divorce.. Now, all of that could’ve been avoided. UNDERSTAND the importance of marriage. Marriage ain’t just a piece of paper.. it’s not just something you do out of boredom! It’s a SPIRITUAL commitment between two people. If you’re not ready for that, don’t get married.
Another thing, stop laying down producing with people who aren’t even committed to you. You just had baby #2 with baby daddy #2 and the first thing you post once you finish delivering is “single” 🧐 likeeee girl, why are you so content with that? If he’s not committed to you, there’s a big chance he won’t be committed to your baby. Now, that baby gotta be caught up in y’all drama!!!! That baby did not ask for that shit!
Aren’t y’all tired of being statistics??? Just a single black mother raising a child, ALONE. Just a nigga that don’t take care of his kids?? Even your child, a black kid without a father, is now a statistic.. We all deserve better than this! Let’s do better.
And don’t even get me started on the amount of children mistreated due to their parents hate for one another….. No child deserves to be mistreated.. definitely not because you laid down with the wrong person. That’s your fault. Not your children!
People come with a lot of baggage, GOOD and BAD. It’s safe to say it’s important to know WHO you’re laying down with!!
◦ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ɪꜱ “ɢʀᴏᴡɴ ꜰᴏʟᴋs shit”
Have you ever heard of the term:
Usually used by a black elder, or the person with authority over you when they’re trying to tell you why you can’t do something. 😂
For example, If I used profanity as a child I was told not to do that because “it’s for grown folks” Lol. But, cursing is bad in general so technically it’s not for adults because it’s not for anybody! If it’s bad, it’s bad. Regardless of age.
Wtbs, “GROWN FOLKS” stuff is just an excuse black elders use to steer their children away from doing the bad things that they picked up from them!!!!! 😂🤣
No seriously though, you can’t use profanity around your kids and expect them to not use it. Telling them “it’s for grown folks” is not going to stop them from doing it especially if YOU continue to do it! They’re influenced by you. You can’t drink alcohol around your kids and expect your children to not drink it…Telling them “it’s for grown folks” is not going to stop them from doing it… Especially if you CONTINUE to do it! Kids are influenced by their parents. So parents, be what you are asking them to be!
◦ ʟᴇᴀʀɴ ʜᴏᴡ ᴛᴏ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ɢᴇɴᴛʟʏ
What’s up with black folks and tough love???? Why does the black community see gentleness as weakness??? Lol. black people gotta be the only race that will bully a mf for being raised properly! 😂 S/O to Russell, keep being a man of God ✊🏾
I think one of the most toxic traits ever is not being able to be gentle. Gentle with yourself. Gentle with others. Love IS gentle. How can you say you love someone when you can’t even be gentle with them? This is also why it’s important to lOVE YOURSELF! When you love yourself, you are gentle with yourself. When you are gentle with yourself, you will be gentle with others When you are met with problems, they don’t have to be solved with aggression! Aggression doesn’t SOLVE anything. Communication does. Being gentle, does.
Also, the “I had to struggle so my child gone struggle” mentality some of y’all have has GOTTA GO. asap! The fact that you will intentionally not provide your child with something because your parents weren’t ABLE to give it to you is lame. It’s LAME. and toxic. I’m sure there’s a psychological term for that because it makes no sense!!!!!! If anything you should want your child to have it BECAUSE you couldn’t. You should feel good being able to provide your kids with what you weren’t fortunate enough to have.
◦ “ᴘᴀʀᴛʏ” ꜰʀɪᴇɴᴅꜱ
Ouweeee!!!!! This a good one right here!!!! Lol. PLEASE, understand that there is a such thing as “just party friends” which are friends who are FUN and good for only partying. You CANNOT. I repeat, CANNOT, bring these mfs around when doing regular stuff. Party friends are just for FUN. They are not people you drop everything for and run to in a time of need. They are just people you like going out with to party. Lol I guess it’s safe to say they’re not even “real” friends because most of the time they low key fake asf.
LETS BE HONEST..
For a woman, a party friend is a slut that loves to have fun! She should never be allowed around your man or anybody you intimate with 😂 (you will be without a party friend QUICK) so keep them in their place! Party friends DO NOT belong at family functions. Party friends DO NOT belong in your living room on your couch. Party friends should not be told ANY of your personal secrets. It’s gotta be strictly fun.
A party friend is an acquaintance!
◦ ᴀᴄᴛ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴘᴜʀᴘᴏꜱᴇ
Quit doing shit for no reason!!!!!!! Black people should be acting with purpose. Every action should have purpose. The reasoning behind it should make sense!
Robbing your neighbor is not acting with purpose! Vandalizing your community is not acting with purpose! Killing your peers over bull shit is not acting with purpose.
◦ ᴛʜɪɴᴋ ꜰᴏʀ ʏᴏᴜʀꜱᴇʟꜰ. ᴅᴏɴ’ᴛ ʙᴇ ᴀꜰʀᴀɪᴅ ᴛᴏ ꜱᴛᴀɴᴅ ꜰᴏʀ ꜱᴏᴍᴇᴛʜɪɴɢ
Black people have been targeted, made fun of, ridiculed, mistreated and just blantaly disrespected more than any other human race. But, when will we wake up and see that there is a new problem today… and WE are that problem. When will we stand up for one another and beat the odds? When will we have control over our youth? When will our love for one another outweigh the negative and unwanted influence???
WE ARE THE CHANGE WE SEEK.
use the internet as a platform to understand yourself instead of someone else.
Vonnie v.
𝗗𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝗕𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝗣𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲, we are stronger than ever together. Unity is peace. 🫶🏾 Peace is LOVE. 🌤
ᴛʜᴇ ᴘᴀꜱᴛ ɪꜱ ᴛʜᴇ ᴘᴀꜱᴛ. ʟᴇᴛ’ꜱ ᴀʟʟ ꜰᴏᴄᴜꜱ ᴏɴ ᴄʀᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ ᴀ ʙʀɪɢʜᴛᴇʀ ꜰᴜᴛᴜʀᴇ.✨
Sincerely,
Marće
marće 